Are your old fundy friends still your friends?

[IFB No More]

(03-14-2011 02:06 AM)IFB No More Wrote:  I've cut off contact with all of them. Deleted their cellphone numbers and defriended them on FB.
The problem is that I live only 10-20 miles of them and chances are I could bump into them easily.

The pastor's a highly influential guy in the secular world - he knows how to keep his fundy beliefs hidden and used to be a highly-skilled professional earning a six-digit pay, and knows quite a few important people in the authorities. Same goes his childhood friend who runs the church. It's hard to talk to those guys and I fear the day I bump into them.

Because officially I still remain a (inactive) member there, they technically have the right to screw me up anytime they want.

Guys, I am somewhat bothered by this issue. I do not want to formally associate with the fundys anymore, even though I'm inactive for quite sometime. The moment I am free from the membership, the preacher will have no more right on-the-paper to spiritually abuse me anymore and will just treat me as an outsider. They seem to be leaving me alone for now, with hope that I may come back in the future. Or *sarcastic* maybe an accident or bad event will happen that will make me flee back to fundyland. But I still have the feeling I'm being watched.

Sorry fundys, I don't want you to ask me how am I. I'm fine. I'll never be fine in your eyes. I don't read your Bible version. I break your rules. I disobey your doctrines. You should be thankful to God that I'm still attending church when the majority of people you drove away abandoned Christianity completely. You don't consider an evangelical your brother or sister in Christ. Even conservatives like Piper or MacArthur are too liberal for you. Even those from Bob Jones (since they are not KJVO) are apostates in your opinion!!! You are not God. You are just a human being. Human beings with great responsibility. And since you fundys believe in "local church only" and "no universal church", you won't allow me to resign or transfer me to a non-IFB church. If I leave, it means I'm leaving the body of Christ, which means you have to mark me a hell-bound sinner.

I need advice, dear SFL friends. This is honest. My time is running out and sooner or later I will bump into the fundys again.