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**Tiarali** · 04-09-2012, 07:55 AM

You mean he escaped? Alive????

**laurat99** · 04-09-2012, 10:24 AM

Upon further review, don't offer to take your mom to services every week. She might think she's "helping" by keeping you away from that Catholic church and in a "Godly" church. Once a month would be my recommendation. Your brother and sister can help out by driving her to services, and surely there's someone in her congregation she can ask. This hits a sore point with me that many elderly people think their kids are there to do everything for them (I'm not saying this at all about your mom, Mitch). Make some friends and have your own social life so yours doesn't revolve around your children and grandchildren's.

**myotch** · (This post was last modified: 04-09-2012 03:42 PM by myotch.)

Well, the old gray mare, she ain't what she used to be.

Or at least she seems more appreciative of family doing things for her. And her criticisms, like her, simply have no teeth anymore. I don't say that in a mean way. She's always been a little hard-edged.

I inquired today with the Church and with mom. No one from the church lives near her. The bus won't run out of certain areas because of insurance and limitations on bussing services. That makes sense.

There's no way I'd take my mom to her church every week. The whole point about the home she is in is the social-ness, amenities, and the care they can offer her. They have two church services on Sundays, and various Bible studies. The home also has so many people that served in the mission field, and always ready to pray and share.

I have to look at it this way: if mom had lived with us, with by brother, or my sister, would any of us make a 40-60 mile round trip every week to take her to church? She's been invited to live with each of us, many times. She wanted to go into this home, rather stubbornly at times. She likes the independence, not that she takes advantage of it.

If she lived with any of us, and she didn't want to go to any of our churches, she should find something a little closer to home. And that's what she should do, now. Every Sunday morning, there's buses from many local churches at my mom's home, picking up elderly women and couples. And this is Georgia - ya can't swing a cat without hitting a Baptist church. She just doesn't want to start over. Really, I can't blame her, but that's because I know her.

There's nothing negative in saying this: my mom is simply stubborn.