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**JordanMaria** · 03-14-2012, 08:06 PM

I know I tend to crave physical affection. I'm lucky to have a man that likes physical affection. I've sometimes had a hard time not being clingy.

~~Persnickety Polecat~~ · 03-14-2012, 08:10 PM

Of course there are normal massage places. Massage parlors are the happy ending places. Massage therapists are generally legitimate.

And no, I don't crave physical contact. I actually prefer not to be touched at all, generally speaking. The only people I *am physically affectionate with are my children. Other than that, sex is about the only physical contact I am ok with, and I'm pretty sure you weren't talking about that.

Don · 03-14-2012, 08:19 PM

(03-14-2012 02:42 AM)tiarali Wrote: I think this is fairly normal. But of course there are times when we need comfort and intimacy more than others. It's just more acceptable for children to give and receive such affection, adults I think don't always like to admit they have this need.

I read an article that said that adults who were single should try and get a regular massage or something just so that they have that human contact.

*snicker*
You seem to be sending mixed messages. On the active side you say we need to be touched... and down in the signature line you say "Touch me not" you are confusing george... and me too. Tongue

**Tiarali** · 03-14-2012, 08:44 PM

Hahaha

that touch me not Is because people rebuked me for questioning my pastor, then sent me hate mail cause I left my husband. Tongue

~~SomethingFundy~~ · 03-14-2012, 08:48 PM

too much cute

**redhot** · 03-14-2012, 09:23 PM

(03-14-2012 07:27 PM)Qrayze Wrote: I've started dating this guy who's a cuddler; yeah, it's kinda awesome I hadn't realized how much I missed just being held.

Warning: May contain adult content Wink

Since I left my husband, I have to "take things into my own hands" so to speak Blush

but just being held is what I really want. I want to fall asleep with someone holding me.

"Lay down beside me
Love me and hide me
And kiss all the hurtin' of this world away.
Hold me so close
That I feel your heartbeat
And don't ever wander away." Alison Krauss <3

**MKxcomm** · 03-14-2012, 10:05 PM

I grew up in a household where hugging was only for special occasions. I was starved for physical touch before I met my husband.

**mirandaluzdivina** · 03-14-2012, 10:12 PM

(03-14-2012 08:10 PM)Persnickety Polecat Wrote: And no, I don't crave physical contact. I actually prefer not to be touched at all, generally speaking. The only people I *am physically affectionate with are my children. Other than that, sex is about the only physical contact I am ok with, and I'm pretty sure you weren't talking about that.

It's nice to know I'm not the only one like that. I hate being touched, always have. My dad says I didn't even like being cuddled as a baby. To this day, one of my aunts is convinced that I'm autistic (I guess because all the "autistic" people on TV cringe or scream when they're touched, and a diagnosis is, of course, made by matching up quirks with fictional characters).

**senda wales** · 03-15-2012, 12:54 AM

Sure. Once you get used to physical affection it's hard to go back to not having someone to hug and just hold at the end of a rough day.

Although, I'd say that holding hands is one of my favorite things to do, maybe more so than hugging. It's just such an easy, small, simple, and yet powerful way to show affection and closeness, even when no one's looking. It denotes exclusivity in a way that hugs don't and it's very acceptable and comfortable to do in public. You can also go about your normal day and not have to stop or set aside time just to hold hands, so it's also a very efficient way to show affection.

**beensetfree** · 03-15-2012, 06:44 AM

(03-14-2012 10:12 PM)mirandaluzdivina Wrote:
(03-14-2012 08:10 PM)Persnickety Polecat Wrote: And no, I don't crave physical contact. I actually prefer not to be touched at all, generally speaking. The only people I *am physically affectionate with are my children. Other than that, sex is about the only physical contact I am ok with, and I'm pretty sure you weren't talking about that.

It's nice to know I'm not the only one like that. I hate being touched, always have. My dad says I didn't even like being cuddled as a baby. To this day, one of my aunts is convinced that I'm autistic (I guess because all the "autistic" people on TV cringe or scream when they're touched, and a diagnosis is, of course, made by matching up quirks with fictional characters).

Me and my husband are both like this. Just not touchy feely people. Our daughter is a hugger though. Though I do think the LORD has mellowed me in the past few years to at least be more emotionally moved for people.