Divorce and Remarriage

[Qrayze]

(03-22-2012 03:24 PM)lucrezaborgia Wrote:  ...but it sounds like you were consumed with guilt over it and the guilt led to depression and obsessing over things. That sounds nothing like what redhot's husband did. You spent hours trying to assuage the guilt. That's not a porn addiction.

I was thinking the same thing. Dude wasn't an addict; he was just feeling mega guilty over a normal urge.

The thing that is so mind-fucked-up with growing up IFB is that it skews our perceptions of what addiction really is. In the IFB, feeling an urge to do somthing makes you an addict. No, it doesn't. Once a month during ovulation, I get the urge to have sex, but that doesn't mean I'm addicted to sex since I'm single. It means that nature is trying to get me preggers.

There is so much re-education you have to go thru when coming out of the IFB, that, if you don't willfully educate yourself, you are going to sound like a fundy even if you don't identify that way.