Divorce and Remarriage

[Persnickety Polecat]

(03-22-2012 01:45 PM)NotUnderLaw Wrote:  After my initial post I wasn't. Having been in the situation that her husband is in, to some extent, I have an insight into the mind and habits of a porn addict and was trying to share how people in that situation might feel, rather than have everyone demonize them. I wasn't directly addressing redhot at all, except in my initial post, briefly.

Notunderlaw, the difference between your situation and hers is that not only did you try to make it right with your wife (there is no evidence that he is doing so), he also defrauded his family of tens of thousands of dollars. That's what I would consider financial infidelity on top of the porn addiction.

I think most wives can be remarkably forgiving of a lot of bad behavior on the part of their husbands (and there is plenty of evidence to back me up) even when they shouldn't be. But this situation was damaging to the whole family -- again, imo -- and it wasn't about the porn addiction as much as it was the deceit, the money, and the other behaviors.