Divorce and Remarriage

[Persnickety Polecat]

(03-14-2012 09:39 AM)redhot Wrote:  I appreciate everybody's support for my situation. I'm new to posting on this forum, and I hope this doesn't become just a thread about me, cuz I'm sure that wasn't the original intent. (sorry to the original post Since I haven't figured out how to highlight specific portions of replies to comment on, I'll just quickly address two comments: My brother said the same thing about the porn: Why pay when you can get it for free? However, he was in live chat rooms: pick a girl, hair color, boob size, shaving/piercing preferences, toys, etc., and she'll perform. Guess you can't get that for free. And I have contacted a lawyer about protecting my assests, but he said that he can prove an emotionally distressing environment, which would "allow" me to leave. I hope he's right.
And to everyone who says it's always the wife's fault: yes, I have encountered this since the beginning. My sister in law says I should consider the beam in my eye before judging him for the mote in his. If I prayerfully ask God to show me how I drove my husband away, God will reveal to me how to mend this.
Again, thanks for the support. Nice to hear from others who have experienced the same things.

That's making the ENORMOUS assumption that you would WANT to mend it. Not everyone -- or even most people -- would.

And while I can agree that it takes two people to build a marriage and two people to break it down, I do NOT agree that you are responsible for HIS failures and wrongdoing. That's absurd.

My husband was unfaithful to me years ago after the birth of my third child. I was suffering from severe PPD. I withdrew into myself. He felt ignored, and when a 19 yo nurse (wth -- 19???) started fawning all over him, he ate it up. Bottom line: I may have contributed to the breakdown of our relationship, but HIS choices and actions were ALL his own. I could have used my husband's support, and he was utterly selfish and cruel to use my most vulnerable moment as an excuse to have an affair.