Dating at Fundy U

[senda wales]

(11-28-2011 12:20 AM)Elijah Craig Wrote:  

(11-28-2011 12:13 AM)senda wales Wrote:  Once a fundyU grad (think he was WCBC) asked me out via Facebook. He gave me a completely asinine reason for providing me with his phone number and then asked me out while apologizing for being "so forward." I wasn't that interested, so I pulled a classic fundy girl move and suggested we invite a few other friends along. A day or so later he apologized again for being inappropriate or something and said he was withdrawing his request.

What I have noticed about fundies (IFB, SBC, PCA, SGM, and others) is that the rhetoric of "Biblical manhood" which includes making fun of dudes who wear handbags, don't like football, or drive hybrids actually serves to blind fundy guys to the fact their balls have been surgically removed by their spiritual leaders.

hahahahaha... too true. Believe it or not, this particular person was the only one who was straightforward or ballsy enough to actually ask me out. Everyone else just kind of talked. Which I guess just proves your point.

[mirandaluzdivina]

(11-28-2011 12:13 AM)senda wales Wrote:  A day or so later he apologized again for being inappropriate or something and said he was withdrawing his request.

I just love the way you put that: "withdrawing his request." Like it's a bureaucracy or something. I hope you made him file the proper forms!

[senda wales]

(11-28-2011 04:37 AM)mirandaluzdivina Wrote:  

(11-28-2011 12:13 AM)senda wales Wrote:  A day or so later he apologized again for being inappropriate or something and said he was withdrawing his request.

I just love the way you put that: "withdrawing his request." Like it's a bureaucracy or something. I hope you made him file the proper forms!

Seriously, it was his phrasing. Ok, so it was actually "please disregard my request."

[amyrose5]

(11-28-2011 12:52 PM)senda wales Wrote:  Seriously, it was his phrasing. Ok, so it was actually "please disregard my request."

That sounds like a business deal. Which goes perfectly with all the first dates I went on with Evangelical men that felt like a job interview for the position of "housewife".

[senda wales]

(11-28-2011 01:09 PM)amyrose5 Wrote:  

(11-28-2011 12:52 PM)senda wales Wrote:  Seriously, it was his phrasing. Ok, so it was actually "please disregard my request."

That sounds like a business deal. Which goes perfectly with all the first dates I went on with Evangelical men that felt like a job interview for the position of "housewife".

Hahahaha. Yes. In my conversations with him I could practically hear his brain checking off a checklist of how compatible I'd be. Born-again independent fundamental baptist? Check. Pretty? Check. Serving in an IFB church? Check. Supportive of my career? Check. Likes the same sports as me? Check. Submissive and docile? Hmmmm... pass.

[SomethingFundy]

My only check list I have now is that she loves the Lord and is a Christian and don't care of the denomination to be honest.

*still kicks something over hurt people in fundydom*

[FinallyFree]

(11-27-2011 08:39 PM)Elijah Craig Wrote:  

(11-27-2011 08:38 PM)FinallyFree Wrote:  At Ambassador, we had to fill out dating passes to even talk to each other for extended periods of time.

WHAT?

I can't remember how long we could talk without a pass, it may have been like 30 minutes cumulative, but mealtimes were not included. Yeah, it sucked.

[amyrose5]

Okay, FinallyFree...am I reading that right? Did you have to have a written pass to talk to someone of the opposite sex at dinner?

How do they expect people to leave this absurd environment and function in a workplace where they will regularly work with people of the opposite sex and be expected to be professional and socially adept at handling it?

[lucrezaborgia]

(11-28-2011 07:10 PM)amyrose5 Wrote:  How do they expect people to leave this absurd environment and function in a workplace where they will regularly work with people of the opposite sex and be expected to be professional and socially adept at handling it?

I was under the impression that people who go to Fundy U's aren't expected to leave the fundy world and are expected to work in it so why bother learning the ways of the world at large?

[captain_solo]

(11-28-2011 09:20 PM)lucrezaborgia Wrote:  

(11-28-2011 07:10 PM)amyrose5 Wrote:  How do they expect people to leave this absurd environment and function in a workplace where they will regularly work with people of the opposite sex and be expected to be professional and socially adept at handling it?

I was under the impression that people who go to Fundy U's aren't expected to leave the fundy world and are expected to work in it so why bother learning the ways of the world at large?

And...boom goes the dynamite.

When I explained that some of my decisions around carefully helping my children out of the bubble that protected them as small children were to ensure that my children were prepared for the time when they were adults and had to deal with the world in a meaningful way, I got blank stares as if this was something they didn't realize had to happen.

"You know they might become gay if you send them to a public school"
(There were gay people at Fundy U...lots of them)
"especially if they are in sports, its more acceptable in sports"
(uh...I don't even know what to say to this one)
"What if they question what they were taught in church"
(I already teach them to question much of what they are taught in church)
"Do you know how many kids have went off the deep end cause they went to public college?"
(Do you know how many kids have went off the deep end because their parents sheltered them in Christian schools and colleges? - for the record I don't think that had anything to do with it, in either scenario)