Dating at Fundy U

[boymom]

I'd think the answer to the last question would be, "Not nearly as many as you think."

[mirandaluzdivina]

(11-29-2011 08:26 AM)captain_solo Wrote:  When I explained that some of my decisions around carefully helping my children out of the bubble that protected them as small children were to ensure that my children were prepared for the time when they were adults and had to deal with the world in a meaningful way, I got blank stares as if this was something they didn't realize had to happen.

Oh yes, my dad caught holy hell when I went to UCLA. When I joined a sorority, that was an obvious sign that I'd become a lesbian. Someone--and I swear this is true--even had the nerve to tell him that it would be on his conscience when I inevitably ended up getting an abortion after being raped (presumably the rape itself would be my fault, as I'm a brazen hussy).

[Jenni]

(11-29-2011 08:26 AM)captain_solo Wrote:  "What if they question what they were taught in church"
(I already teach them to question much of what they are taught in church)

Kudos for you for doing that. If I had children, they would be allowed to play with your children.

[FinallyFree]

(11-28-2011 07:10 PM)amyrose5 Wrote:  Okay, FinallyFree...am I reading that right? Did you have to have a written pass to talk to someone of the opposite sex at dinner?

How do they expect people to leave this absurd environment and function in a workplace where they will regularly work with people of the opposite sex and be expected to be professional and socially adept at handling it?

My bad... We could talk at meals in the cafeteria without it counting against or time limit for the day. But when your girlfriend worked in the kitchen to pay for a worthless education, the time to talk were severely limited. But again, we found ways to ignore the rules. Still though, it's only by grace that my wife and I have a great relationship today despite the oppressive environment we endured.

[FinallyFree]

(11-29-2011 08:26 AM)captain_solo Wrote:  

(11-28-2011 09:20 PM)lucrezaborgia Wrote:  I was under the impression that people who go to Fundy U's aren't expected to leave the fundy world and are expected to work in it so why bother learning the ways of the world at large?

And...boom goes the dynamite.

When I explained that some of my decisions around carefully helping my children out of the bubble that protected them as small children were to ensure that my children were prepared for the time when they were adults and had to deal with the world in a meaningful way, I got blank stares as if this was something they didn't realize had to happen.

"You know they might become gay if you send them to a public school"
(There were gay people at Fundy U...lots of them)
"especially if they are in sports, its more acceptable in sports"
(uh...I don't even know what to say to this one)
"What if they question what they were taught in church"
(I already teach them to question much of what they are taught in church)
"Do you know how many kids have went off the deep end cause they went to public college?"
(Do you know how many kids have went off the deep end because their parents sheltered them in Christian schools and colleges? - for the record I don't think that had anything to do with it, in either scenario)

Captain, you nailed it dude. I have totally shocked the former world in which I lived by putting my kids in public school, encouraging them to question things in church (it builds reasonable faith), and am now trying to get enrolled in a real university to become... Horrorer of Horreres... a public school teacher.

[JordanMaria]

(11-29-2011 10:53 AM)mirandaluzdivina Wrote:  Oh yes, my dad caught holy hell when I went to UCLA. When I joined a sorority, that was an obvious sign that I'd become a lesbian. Someone--and I swear this is true--even had the nerve to tell him that it would be on his conscience when I inevitably ended up getting an abortion after being raped (presumably the rape itself would be my fault, as I'm a brazen hussy).

I'm sorry.. that's terrible.... but I'm hysterical!!!

Lesbian???? puh-LEEZE My lesbian friends I found a BJU!!!

[alm517]

I didn't go to fundy u, because I decided in back in Christian school that enough was enough, but my hubby did and at his there were dating rules but since he lived off campus we never followed them. He was supposed to go ask the school's president for permission to get engaged before we did but he ignored that too.

[WifeofBill]

(11-30-2011 09:00 AM)alm517 Wrote:  I didn't go to fundy u, because I decided in back in Christian school that enough was enough, but my hubby did and at his there were dating rules but since he lived off campus we never followed them. He was supposed to go ask the school's president for permission to get engaged before we did but he ignored that too.

What in the world was their justification that they felt they could have ANY say in who someone marries? Did they try to back it up with scripture? Would they have the gall to tell someone that they couldn't marry someone? Ugh.

[SomethingFundy]

They do tell people all the time who they can and can not marry.

[FinallyFree]

(12-06-2011 02:57 PM)SomethingFundy Wrote:  They do tell people all the time who they can and can not marry.

They do, and it drives me nuts thinking how they try to control people. Of course many of us refused to be controlled.