Dating for Recovering Fundies

[Elijah Craig]

These are my words about meeting girls in bars for all recovering Fundy dudes:

The first thing to realize is that girls like guys. Girls have sex drives. Pick girls who are in your league and move forward on the operating principle that you are both open to the same thing.

Nice guys do win. Don't be a pushover. Be a nice guy. Consider the interests and feelings of the girl. It's not about you getting what you want. It's about both of you getting what you want. Together.

Don't move on bar trash. Nice girls do go bars just as nice guys do. Talk to the girls who look like they don't live in the bar. The ones who are maybe a little too fixed up to be there. The ones who don't know everyone there. Walk up and talk to them.

Don't hit on every girl in the place. People want to feel like they're special. So turn your attention to one girl. She can leave. She can be approached by other guys. She might come back around and talk to you. That's how bars are.

Take it or leave it. Don't be obsessive. If she's not receptive, she's not receptive. There are other fish in the sea. Try again another night. Or give it enough time and talk to another girl.

Be yourself. Smart girls, good girls... they usually have decent bullshit detectors. Don't put up a front. Be who you are and if they see you are who you are, you gain a lot of points right there.

It's OK to let them know you have a sex drive. It's OK to let them know you would some day like to bone them. They already know it. If you try to hide it you're weird or your gay. Just don't be creepy or in their face about it. Probably not a good idea to use the word "bone."