Dating for Recovering Fundies

[IFB No More]

Some lessons I have learnt so far, when I observe ladies floating to guys.

If you want to win a girl, you need to be interesting in your own way, give others an "in-control" sense - that you don't look like a little kid who freaks out easily. It is not true video-game nerds don't win girls - I've noticed several who are addicts and yet still have a dating life. I observe girls like guys who are well-versed in the world (not the biblical def. of "worldly" but you know, street-smart-type of worldly) and who can pose themselves well. The saying that men get better with age like wine stands true here.

In my context, I guess after spending five years in fundy-land, I really did not have a chance to develop my personality. This I did much catching up here in America. I now have a rough idea what I like, what sort of person I am etc. I don't fear as much as anymore... I was surprised how a simple abstract words of encouragement my PCA campus minister gave - "God will always be with you no matter what situation you're in good or bad" - had such an effect on alleviating my fear.

While I haven't got into a relationship yet, I am in a far better position for one as of now - and am quite sure what to do next - Go out and socialize more, acquire more experience in life, be chill and don't be afraid to do things, and eventually I'll find Ms. Right.