Dating for Recovering Fundies

[Elijah Craig]

(09-19-2011 05:00 PM)senda wales Wrote:  

(09-19-2011 04:55 PM)Persnickety Polecat Wrote:  I asked my husband out the first time ... 12 or so years ago.

I'll add my 2 cents to the dating thing. If you're really uncomfortable interacting with men, dating, etc., have you tried just having male friends? Sometimes not having the pressure of a "date" will help you relax a little more. Go out on "friend dates" with men you're just friends with (just make sure everyone knows it's a friends-only thing so no one gets hurt), and build up to actual dates with men you're actually interested in.

Yeah, yeah, I have guy friends that I feel very comfortable "asking out" and it's not a big deal at all. I just feel like the stakes are higher when actual interest is involved. Also, my reputation.

It is a cultural thing. Even today, it's generally the role of the man to ask the woman out. A lot of dudes will think you're too forward. Some dudes won't care. Depends on the dude.