Dating for Recovering Fundies

[Mommy2Kids]

For me, online dating helped. I used a Christian site where I could narrow down my preferences, and I used a generic user name. The only way they could communicate with me was through the site unless I chose to give them my generic personal email. I was writing to 10 guys at one time, and eventually they fell away to fewer numbers. And then I met my future husband, and we left them all in the dust.

I was really scared at first, but clearly the risk was worth it.

I read a couple of really great books on dating/finding a mate. Becoming a Friend and a Lover by Dick Purnell is the best book on it that I've read. I wrote lists, too, of the characteristics I wanted, and I tried to be as objective as I could about the men to whom I was writing.

My husband and I wrote, emailed and called for 6 months until we were able to meet in person. That dispensed with much of the where-to-go/what-to-do stuff that takes up energy in relationships.

It worked for us.