Swimming Modestly

[Recovering]

(05-23-2011 07:27 PM)Beowulf Wrote:  Which brings up an interesting question...how many others never learned to swim until adulthood? It could be because of mixed bathing restrictions, clothing, whatever. In my case, it was a mother deathly afraid of water.

Mixed swimming was not allowed, and as we didn't own a pool, that basically meant we never swam. I didn't learn how to swim until I went to college.

And I still feel funny in a bikini.

[notdrinkingthekoolaid]

Because I care about the corneas of those around me, I don't wear a bikini. It's better for everyone involved that I have a little more coverage!

[senda wales]

A couple of weeks ago I wore a bikini for the first time since I was like 8. Otherwise, I've always worn tankinis and one-pieces for swimming. The only time I went swimming in shorts and a t-shirt was at... *drum roll* fundy camp. And of course "mixed bathing" was not allowed.

Also..... Beowulf your PS skills are EPIC.

[Monipenny]

That was a huge struggle for me as a then young mother of 3 girls who were not raised in a fundy church but by a fundy mom trying to instill godly bathing dress codes into them. For years I was too convicted from my fundy upbringing to wear a bikini in public, not that I don't have the body for it, and now since those convictions don't rule me, I proudly wear a bikini to the beach or pool. If godly men have a problem with it, they don't need to go to public pools where people swim and sun with little coverings.

[Bob M]

(12-30-2011 01:53 AM)Monipenny Wrote:  That was a huge struggle for me as a then young mother of 3 girls who were not raised in a fundy church but by a fundy mom trying to instill godly bathing dress codes into them. For years I was too convicted from my fundy upbringing to wear a bikini in public, not that I don't have the body for it, and now since those convictions don't rule me, I proudly wear a bikini to the beach or pool. If godly men have a problem with it, they don't need to go to public pools where people swim and sun with little coverings.

The funny thing is this: When I was at Fundy U and in a Fundy church, and the preecher brayed against bikinis, when I saw one, I lusted like crazy. I have never figured out why.

Now that i am past that and have no problem going to the pool, the lusting only happens if I am in a bad mood, like angry, or very tired. I know that this is someone's wife or daughter and I look, but don't stare or lust. And no, I am not gay.

[lucrezaborgia]

(04-09-2012 09:51 PM)Bob M Wrote:  The funny thing is this: When I was at Fundy U and in a Fundy church, and the preecher brayed against bikinis, when I saw one, I lusted like crazy. I have never figured out why.

Now that i am past that and have no problem going to the pool, the lusting only happens if I am in a bad mood, like angry, or very tired. I know that this is someone's wife or daughter and I look, but don't stare or lust. And no, I am not gay.

Maybe it had something to do with it being so forbidden?

As to the rest, not everyone immediately thinks "oh wow I must screw them right now!" When other people are dressed a certain way. Teens might, but if you grew up with it being normal it's not so alluring or special. I abhor groups who force clothing onto people in cultures where it was never important for them.

[JordanMaria]

(04-10-2012 12:18 AM)lucrezaborgia Wrote:  Teens might, but if you grew up with it being normal it's not so alluring or special.

I was told that they were desensitized to their sin.

[Bob M]

(04-10-2012 12:18 AM)lucrezaborgia Wrote:  

(04-09-2012 09:51 PM)Bob M Wrote:  The funny thing is this: When I was at Fundy U and in a Fundy church, and the preecher brayed against bikinis, when I saw one, I lusted like crazy. I have never figured out why.

Now that i am past that and have no problem going to the pool, the lusting only happens if I am in a bad mood, like angry, or very tired. I know that this is someone's wife or daughter and I look, but don't stare or lust. And no, I am not gay.

Maybe it had something to do with it being so forbidden?

As to the rest, not everyone immediately thinks "oh wow I must screw them right now!" When other people are dressed a certain way. Teens might, but if you grew up with it being normal it's not so alluring or special. I abhor groups who force clothing onto people in cultures where it was never important for them.

I grew up in a family where swimming and wearing bathing suits were normal. We would go camping and the guys wore cut off shorts and the girls wore bikinis. It was not a big deal. Oh, I noticed when my sisters brought friends, but it was made clear that you were not to stare. And I learned not to, and we were not a particularly "christian" family. We brought beer to the swimming hole.

[Tiarali]

I've always covered up when swimming. Not some ridiculous fundy contraption. But I'd wear board shorts over a one piece or something. And that was something I picked up from my public high school. All the girls were sensitive about their bodies, and covered up when we did swimming at school. If they couldn't get a note from their mum excusing them from phys ed because 'for private reasons'. Of course, they probably didn't as they grew past the awkward stage of adolescence, but I stopped taking phys ed by then, and never grew out of it the practice of covering up.

Now that I think about it, I think it's sad that my self-confidence was always so small. Why did I despise my own body so much? I mightn't be gorgeous, but it wasn't like I was fat or anything. *sigh*

[Phatchick]

I wear a one piece suit because I truly don't have the figure to get away with a bikini and I have too much compassion for the eyesight of those around me. Besides {sigh} there aren't that many places that sell 2X two piece swimsuits.