Dating at Fundy U

[SomethingFundy]

I can't help but read this thread though it makes my blood boil and want to kick something

[JoeR]

At BJU, a dorm student male and a town student female can date off campus unchaperoned. That's how my wife and I got to know each other in a more normal way. That's also how we almost got expelled. Note to those who go this route: Don't cuddle in a vehicle with a BJU parking sticker on the window. SOMEONE out there WILL turn you in. Notice, I didn't say, "someone will confront you." No, some "former staff member" turned us in. At least that was what I was told. Of course, they said we were making out, which we were not. We didn't kiss at all until about a week or two later. Oh well, who are they going to believe?

[I'veHeardVersesMisquoted]

(11-26-2011 11:01 AM)Tikatu Wrote:  Click on the "Reply" button; it'll set up all the quotations in one post for you. Or, if you want to quote someone somewhere else, click on the little word balloon in Full Edit mode. To give credit to the quotee, put an = and their name in the first "quote" command, then put the quote itself after it. Make sure you have a "/quote" command after the text you're quoting.

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[Strangly Warmed]

My cousin had a friend who went to BJU, and while walking to her fiances car held his hand. She was summoned to someone's office and was asked "what she was saving for marriage"? Her comment was "the other hand".

[Jeremy]

Never went to BJU, but my first girlfriend (at age 22!) was a BJU alumna. The relationship lasted a month and consisted entirely of us making out on the couch at her place and trying to work up the nerve to go upstairs. Thankfully, we never did; I have no doubt I would have gotten her pregnant. It ended when I got fired from my job and decided to move to Phoenix. When I told her my plans she freaked out, and rightfully so, since after taking her to second base one night I had told her that I loved her.

My God what messes we both were.

[FinallyFree]

At Ambassador, we had to fill out dating passes to even talk to each other for extended periods of time. Dates off campus had to be chaperoned, and on campus dating was severely restricted to certain public areas. It was hard to find a place to be alone. Touching the opposite gender was strictly forbidden, but my wife (then girlfriend) and I ignored this rule on breaks, which was also forbidden since we were instructed to follow the handbook even during the summer. Talk about control freaks.

[Elijah Craig]

(11-27-2011 08:38 PM)FinallyFree Wrote:  At Ambassador, we had to fill out dating passes to even talk to each other for extended periods of time.

WHAT?

[Darren]

I never seriously dated at Fundy U. Took a girl to Valentine's artist series once, but that was it. I never wanted to mess with all the paperwork, and there weren't very many girls there that I was interested in, anyway. I didn't see it this way at the time, but now I can say it was probably a good thing that I didn't get involved with a girl there.

Yes, Elijah, my Ambassador grad wife can confirm that you had to have approval from the dean for an extended conversation with someone of the opposite sex. I guess the dean was the arbiter of what was an extended conversation.

[senda wales]

Once a fundyU grad (think he was WCBC) asked me out via Facebook. He gave me a completely asinine reason for providing me with his phone number and then asked me out while apologizing for being "so forward." I wasn't that interested, so I pulled a classic fundy girl move and suggested we invite a few other friends along. A day or so later he apologized again for being inappropriate or something and said he was withdrawing his request.

It was amazing. Never been asked out AND rejected by the same guy, or at least see a guy backpedal so spectacularly. It honestly didn't bother me at the time, though, because I was too busy crying over this other fundy guy, but that's another story.

[Elijah Craig]

(11-28-2011 12:13 AM)senda wales Wrote:  Once a fundyU grad (think he was WCBC) asked me out via Facebook. He gave me a completely asinine reason for providing me with his phone number and then asked me out while apologizing for being "so forward." I wasn't that interested, so I pulled a classic fundy girl move and suggested we invite a few other friends along. A day or so later he apologized again for being inappropriate or something and said he was withdrawing his request.

What I have noticed about fundies (IFB, SBC, PCA, SGM, and others) is that the rhetoric of "Biblical manhood" which includes making fun of dudes who wear handbags, don't like football, or drive hybrids actually serves to blind fundy guys to the fact their balls have been surgically removed by their spiritual leaders.