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Embarrassment - Perry - 01-09-2011 01:28 AM
Do you ever get very embarrassed when you think of all the outrageous fundy things you used to do? I know I do. It's like it consumes my mind sometimes. I know every time I see my nondenominational aunt, I am reminded of a time six years ago when I told their family I wanted to take all of their non-KJV Bibles and burn them. Now even though back then I was a legalistic IFB'er and now I most certainly am not, I still feel so terrible when I'm around her because of the way I treated her. It's like I worry that she still thinks I'm a nut (I only see her a few times a year). She has always been very nice to me. It just haunts me sometimes when I think of how I used to act.
Another case was with my mother. My parents were divorced when I was young and did not go to church. When my mother announced she was a lesbian, I remember getting really angry at her. I wouldn't even talk to her for about 6 months because of her sexual orientation. Now that I am an open-minded Christian, I can see how painful I made her life at that time of her life because of my own (or rather, the church's) convictions. Sure, I still don't fully agree with homosexuality, But there was no excuse for my childish behavior back then except for that I was a brainwashed IFB Christian school kid that didn't think for himself. Today my mother and I have a great relationship, but it still bothers me the outrageous ways I treated other people that didn't share my beliefs. I beat myself up over it a lot.
How about you? Did you ever say or do any crazy fundy things that you are embarrassed about? Do you find yourself thinking about it a lot? I am still so ashamed at the way I acted, even though I was like that many years ago. It's juat something I need to let go of.
RE: Embarrassment - Tooktheredpill - 01-09-2011 02:27 AM
I feel for you, man. I have to admit I laughed at this, though:
Quote:I know every time I see my nondenominational aunt, I am reminded of a time six years ago when I told their family I wanted to take all of their non-KJV Bibles and burn them.
At my first job, I spent a whole shift (of 12 hrs) explaining premillenial dispensationalism to a lutheran guy I was working with and instructing him that Lutheranism was in error.
How I wish I could I go back in time and tell myself to zip it.
RE: Embarrassment - JessB - 01-09-2011 03:05 AM
Absolutely, Perry!
Coupla stories so we can all laugh at each other. Might help with the embarrassment.
1. I was a freshman in college. My then boyfriend's dad brought a group of teens to a local camp the college utilized from time to time. It was just a Friday/Saturday thing. My boyfriend asked a friend of mine and me if we would go along and stay in the girls' cabin as counselors.
Friday evening my boyfriend's dad pulled me aside and asked me to do a devotion that night for the girls on why they shouldn't wear pants.
I was still pretty fundy at the time and complied because that is what I was supposed to do even though I knew my friend wore pants at home. I gave the whole fundy speal: Dt. 22:5, pants are men's garments, they show your shape, modest apparel, Johnny Pope's definition of katastole, blah, blah, blah, ad nauseum. After I finished one of the girls came up to me and thanked me for the devo and said it really convicted her and that she wouldn't wear pants anymore.
My friend, ever gracious and kind, pulled me aside later discussed the topic with me. I told her that I wasn't sure on the issue myself and only did it because the Dad had asked me to. I would love to undo all that today.
2. One of my good friends in college was an absolute Math whiz. She made Calculus look like a breeze. One day I told her I was surprised that she was so good at Math. She asked my why. I replied, "Because you went to public school." She was offended. Naturally. The ironic thing is I'm not good at Math and my Christian school didn't even offer Calculus. She's reminded me of that day more than a couple of times.
RE: Embarrassment - Kate - 01-09-2011 04:40 AM
Oh, yes, regarding hymns vs praise & worship songs in church. A musician friend who sang with our group from time to time (cowboy/Western music) became involved in the praise band in their church. They had visited our church once and she made the comment that the song service could use some livening up. I was kind of offended at that, because really our church loved to sing and enjoyed the hymns. But I felt I should show her the error of her ways and even passed along a book about the evils of the praise and worship movement in churches. Now, here I am in England attending the Protestant chapel at the base and playing and singing in the praise team! It has been tough learning new ways to play the guitar, but it is a good thing! Our keyboardist/leader is awesome and patient and has taught me well. And God has humbled me. I am amazed at the depth of meaning in the songs I used to disdain.
Yeah, I wish I could take that back!
RE: Embarrassment - Darren - 01-09-2011 08:17 AM
Yeah, I remember my first job out of high school, I made a big stink about the music they were listening to in the shop. I still see some of the people who were there when I am back in my hometown. Thankfully most of them don't think of me as a horrible person. At least one guy came up to me and asked me some question about Christianity and I was able to witness to him.