Comments on: Keepers at Home

By: melissa

melissa — Mon, 21 Feb 2011 03:22:01 +0000

This just gave me a good laugh. I love the name Jael, btw. She should be a hero.

By: Erica

Erica — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 20:32:37 +0000

Actually I found the opposite in the IFBx college I went to. If you were anything “less” than a Christian School teacher, or serving on staff in some way, than you weren’t doing your best for God.

The Pendulum swings both ways in my opinion. I was and another friend of mine were chastised for “throwing our education” away for being “merely” a wife and mom. And that the Lord had “more” for us.

Also there is the fact that husband’s in the ministry aren’t paid enough to keep a family alive so the woman “has” to work…even if her desire is not to. She has no other choice but to “help” her dead beat husband.

I have *ALWAYS* wanted to be a stay at home mom, and yes, I am led of the Lord to do that. I don’t believe all women are called to keepers of the home, but I do have strong beliefs that those who choose to bring a child into this world, should make every provision to have someone in the home with them during their toddler years…at the very least. My opinion is if you don’t want to stay at home don’t have kids. If you have kid’s and can’t go home, then the Lord will work with ya.

And there are actual secular studies done on the benefits of having a parent at home.

God designed it that way, by nature. Breastfeeding is designed so you can’t leave your child during the work week. Sure there are breast pumps to help in that aspect, but eventually your milk will dry out and you will put the baby on formula.

And I know MANY women that did this all in the name of “serving the Lord” underneath their dictator pastor.

Now on the other hand there is the barefoot and keep her pregnant mentality that is going on in the quiver full movement. But that movement wasn’t started nor is it maintained by the IFB’s. There just happen to be individual IFB’s who believe this notion. But it wasn’t in *MY* experience. (I went to four IFB churches, and an IFBx Bible College)

In my honest opinion it is maintained by other ministries that ironically are Calvinistic.

Now Bill Gothard…not sure what his theological position is. But if you’re a *true* IFB you don’t hang out with him.

And I know this post was meant to be humorous, but there are other thoughts out there.

Maybe in the 60′s days of fundamentalism they taught this, but it really is not like that any more.

By: Stephen Bean

Stephen Bean — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 19:38:30 +0000

Hmmm, Sean Payne appears to have a link to the Brownie/Dog poop story on his homepage. Much more elaborate than Darrell’s version, I must say.

By: Ron Bean

Ron Bean — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 18:14:21 +0000

Remember Mark, that people with mental health issues tend to not have a sense of humor.

By: Mark Thomas

Mark Thomas — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:40:05 +0000

Darrell, you need to do a post on SFL readers who totally miss the point.

By: Sean Payne

Sean Payne — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 15:30:27 +0000

My street preacher friend(James the street preacher) had a great sign that he used back in the day, it said: “Hilary should be home doing the dishes.” I tend to agree with it.

By: Reader Mo

Reader Mo — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 22:30:35 +0000

context??? that sounds like the mad raving of a wishy-washy southern baptist to me, amen?

(also, i had forgotten about how “, amen?” was used as punctuation in fundyspeak. i had a good laugh over that one, amen?)

By: Ernst

Ernst — Tue, 02 Feb 2010 04:18:11 +0000

What about the context?

Titus 2:2 That the aged men be sober, grave, temperate…
3 The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness
4 That they may teach the young women…
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home
6 Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded

This is a passage on how EVERYONE needs to be godly.
It has nothing at all to do with women working outside the home.

By: Emily K

Emily K — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 05:12:04 +0000

Of course there are definately exeptions. I know this. I have a close friend whose husband (and infant daughter) were killed in a car accident. She obviously has no choice but to work while her other two children are with others, but obviously it is not ideal to be a single mother. It happens, but its not what she had planned at all. She wants to be with her children.

I am a mother of 4 children whose husband can support us.

I think it would be wrong for me to choose to work and leave them with someone else. My business is raising my kids. In this season of life, that is where my vocation is. When they are grown.. it probably will not be. I may get a career.

I do believe that the bible supports that.

The Proverbs 31 woman would not have been capable of doing all of those things during 1 season of her life. Rather, I think that description fits throughout her life, but not all at the same time.

By: RJW

RJW — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 20:31:04 +0000

In response to the last poster:

Remember, not all moms are able to take care of their own children. Some are single moms. Some are widows. So, we have to be careful not to generalize.

Even if a mom *could* stay at home w/ her children, that does not mean she necessarily should. I know of homes that are so bad the mom would definitely be better off working so the poor kids could be in a stable, non-hurtful environment. Just saying. . .