Comments on: Dissing Divorcees

By: Steve Condrey

Steve Condrey — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 22:24:58 +0000

Perhaps this is my own skewed interpretation of the matter, but as far as I’m concerned ‘adultery’ means any breach of the marriage covenant–physical, emotional, financial, and sexual abuse included along with betraying the trust of one’s partner.

I remember an encounter with a former friend when we were discussing the situation of a woman who had been beaten by her spouse. “God hates divorce,” he said, when I mentioned the idea that she’d leave him. “I’m sure He hates people beating up His daughters even more!” I replied. He mumbled something about that not being mentioned in Scripture, then the conversation abruptly ended.

We were both single at the time: I had never been married; he had been divorced. I wonder why???

By: Freedom08

Freedom08 — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 16:27:30 +0000

I was raised in and went to a fundie church for over 50 years. Because of a broken marriage, partly her fault, partly mine, I left home. I was immediately ostracized by the church…most of my life long friends don’t or won’t speak to me any more. I was lied about and half truths were told about me…Ben Franklin said it best, “Half a truth is worse than a whole lie.” I remarried…but my father, who still goes to this church, called me an adulterer and would have rather be still married to the old wife and in misery than be married to the new wife and in total happiness.

Now, that I have been away from that life, I realize how blinded I was. I am now free to live as I want and not as they think I should. I am remarried to a woman who truly loves me. I lost a lot in my divorce….I had nothing to give her monetarily. She makes way more money than I, has her own house and pays her own way….in short, she does not need me. She WANTS me…and therein lies the difference.

The divorce costs me both financially, physically and mentally. It has cost me friends and some family members…but I can tell you, the cost was well worth the pain.

If you beleive the Bible, especially the KJV, it gives reasons for divorce…but nowhere did I fince that those were the only reasons..

By: Darrell

Darrell — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:10:26 +0000

sorry to laugh so much at a serious post but the auto-corrects in this one are hilarious.

By: paul best

paul best — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:08:40 +0000

A Catholic lady who was a good friend of my parents once said that a Catholic Marriage can be annihalated, only if it hasn’t been consumed. I suppose she meant if it hadn’t been constipated. stil, even though I’m single myself I think divorce is made a lot easier these days, and that it is often the first option taken instead of being the last resort. If divorce was as easy when my parents were first married, i wonder sometimes if their union would have survived. It was stormy at times, but they worked through their problems, and the marriage lasted almost 54 happy yrs until my father died aged 82.

By: paul best

paul best — Thu, 17 Feb 2011 15:00:19 +0000

Even being seperated is unforgivable, as a friend of mine found out when his parents, who were missionaries in a fundy-type society hit a seious problem in their marriage, and seperaed in the sense that they went to live in different houses. Instead of coming close to them to help them be reconciled, the church not-so-politely told my friend’s parents to leave. Do did the missionary society. The marriage ended in divorce, both ended out of work and my friend rebelled against the Church and against God. I’m still praying for him.

By: Jenni

Jenni — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 04:59:38 +0000

My mom actually left the church because she didn’t feel like she fit in anywhere and was tired of being shunned by the married people.

I hated listening to the sermons about all the negative effects of divorce on children. It made me feel like a statistic. And when people found out I was a DK, they usually looked at me like, “Wow, you seemed pretty normal until you said that. Now I’m wondering how dysfunctional you are.”

You’re right about divorce being near the bottom of the sin pit. Who created this sin pit anyway? Pretty sure God doesn’t rank sins like we do …

By: tigersharksteph

tigersharksteph — Wed, 25 Aug 2010 17:52:10 +0000

This tore my aunt up. She recently had her 2nd divorce, and both times, her husband filed a divorce without telling her. In the state I live in that is leagal, you can become divorced without consent. On top of the devistation of being left TWICE, she is now dealing with even more devistation becuase of what the people at her church might think or say, shes really scared they might not let her teach sunday school anymore. She is too nice and loves her church too much to leave, but it makes me so angry that the people that should be supporting and helping her through this difficult time are only making things worse.

By: Peter M

Peter M — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 02:03:42 +0000

I have a colleague whose wife left him for another man. They were both expelled from the church and asked to never return. He was in trouble because he surely hadn’t provided for her as necessary and drove her away to another man. This was some sort of fundy “Brethren” church back in the early 80′s; sadly, he has never returned to regularly attending a church because of it.

By: Morgan

Morgan — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 21:09:14 +0000

@Amy
I have gone through the annulment process. What you voice are common misconceptions of what it is. Because a sacramental marriage cannot be put aside, the Catholic church discerns through the annulment process as to whether or not a sacramental marriage between two parterns existed. If there was an imediment to the marriage (such as one partner’s alcoholism at the time of marriage), then that is considered to be a mitigating factor and may have prevented a sacramental marriage from existing.

Two very important points: The Catholic church does not say the marriage wasn’t “legal” in the secular sense, nor does it say that any children from an annuled marriage were illegitimate.

By: AP

AP — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 15:45:04 +0000

I need to say that it is my logical conclusion that it would make any offspring seem illiegitimate. If you read this website http://www.stcdio.org/annulment.htm
it should make it “clear”. The real point is that it is really only a piece of paper to satisfy the RCC.